The holidays are here—a time that can feel equal parts magical and overwhelming.
Between the endless to-do lists, family obligations, and the pressure to make things perfect for everyone else, it’s easy to lose sight of one very important question: What about you?
I had the honor of sitting down with my dear friend Minaa B. for a powerful conversation about how we can show up for ourselves during the holidays.
Here are four tips to give yourself some extra support and love this season:
01. Set Gentle Boundaries
It’s okay to say no. You don’t have to attend every event or stay longer than your energy allows. Honor your capacity and trust that it’s enough.
02. Tap Into Your Circle of Support
Who are the people in your life that truly nourish you? These are your anchors—lean into them. And if your current circle doesn’t feel supportive, consider expanding it. Minaa spoke so beautifully about creating intentional community, and it’s never too late to begin.
03. Take a Break to Recharge
Even in the busiest moments, give yourself permission to pause. A deep breath, a quiet walk, or even stepping outside for fresh air can do wonders for your nervous system.
04. Embrace Both-And Thinking
Maybe the holidays bring both joy and grief. Maybe you love your family and struggle with certain dynamics. It’s okay for opposing feelings to coexist. Hold space for all of it—it’s what makes you human.
This year is about you.
What do you need? What do you want? What would actually bring you joy this holiday season?
These questions are not selfish—they are essential. Because when you take care of yourself, you create the space to show up fully and authentically for others.
If this resonates, you can listen to my conversation with Minaa below. It’s filled with practical, actionable tools and insights to help you navigate the holidays with greater ease and intention.
Thank you for being part of this community. Your willingness to show up, reflect, and grow inspires me every single day.
With so much love,
Vanessa
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